Active listening

What affects listening?

Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to,
whether in a group or one-on-one, in order to understand what he or she is saying.
As the listener, you should then be able to repeat back in your own words what they have said to their satisfaction. 
This does not mean you agree with the person,
but rather understand what they are saying.

What do you think of the subject matter? Have you a lot of experience with it? Will it be hard to understand, or simple? Is it important to you, or just fun?	Is the speaker experienced or nervous? What are his/her  non-verbal cues? What frame of mind is he or she? How personable, threatening, intelligent, etc.?
Is the message illustrated with with visuals or examples? Is technology used effectively? Are concepts introduced incrementally, or with examples?	Is the space conducive to listening? or to interaction or exchange with the speaker? Are there avoidable distractions?

Described above are the external factors.
Now:what about you, the center, the listener?

Prepare with a positive, engaged attitude

• Focus your attention on the subject
  Stop all non-relevant activities beforehand to orient yourself
  to the speaker or the topic
• Review mentally what you already know about the subject
  Organize in advance relevant material in order to develop it further
  (previous lectures, TV programs, newspaper articles, web sites, prior real life experience, etc.)
• Avoid distractions
  Seat yourself appropriately close to the speaker
  Avoid distractions (a window, a talkative neighbor, noise, etc.)
• Acknowledge any emotional state
  Suspend emotions until later, or
  Passively participate unless you can control your emotions
• Set aside your prejudices, your opinions
  You are present to learn what the speaker has to say,
  not the other way around

Actively listen

• Be other-directed; focus on the person communicating
  Follow and understand the speaker as if you were walking in their shoes
  Listen with your ears but also with your eyes and other senses
• Be aware: non-verbally acknowledge points in the speech
  Let the argument or presentation run its course
  Don't agree or disagree, but encourage the train of thought
• Be involved:
  Actively respond to questions and directions
  Use your body position (e.g. lean forward) and attention to encourage the speaker and signal your interest

Follow up activities

One-to-oneGive the speaker time and space for rest after talking
Express appreciation for the sharing to build trust and encourage dialogue
Check if you have understood

• Restate key points to affirm your understanding & build dialogue
• Summarize key points to affirm your understanding & build dialogue
• Ask (non-threatening) questions to build understanding

Continue dialogue:

• Reflect on your experience to demonstrate your interest (feedback)
• Interpret after you feel you have grasped content
• Apply what you have learned to a new situation

In a group or audience
give the speaker space to regroup, to debrief after talking

During Q & A

If posing a question

• Quickly express appreciation
• Briefly summarize a preliminary point
• Ask the relevant question

If making a point

• Quickly express appreciation
• Briefly restate the relevant idea as presented
• State your idea, interpretation, reflection
• Invite a response

Continued development

• Get contact information for later reference
• Invite friends/colleagues/etc. for discussion afterward
• Write out a summary with questions for further review